Some civilians just want to hold advantage of us – Pretty Police woman narrates why she chose to date colleague
– A female Police officer, Tomilola Adekunle, has expressed disappointment over the negative stereotypes attached to the Force
– She said some men she had dated in the past told her they could not marry an officer because they were domineering and do not obey men
– She disclosed that she is now dating a fellow officer; as some civilians just want to take advantage of Police women
Tomilola Adekunle, a female Police officer, has shared some of the negative things she always hears people say about the profession.
In a chat with Punch, the soft spoken and elegant young lady disclosed how even though her parents wanted her to become a medical doctor, she became a Police officer, after getting inspired by her mum’s younger sister, who was an officer.
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gathers that Adekunle was mesmerized by how neat her aunt always looked; and vowed to become just like her.
She said: “Anytime I woke up in the morning and I saw my aunt dressing up for work, I used to say to myself that I must be a Police woman; her uniform was always neat and perfect on her body.
“She was a very assertive and focused career woman and I admired everything about her a lot. In fact, I just loved the aura that came with being a Police woman.”
However, the young lady also shared disappointment over the negative stereotypes attached to the Police Force.
She said: “The Police uniform comes with authority and poise; when I am in uniform, nobody can talk carelessly around me; especially in commercial buses.
“But anytime I am not in my uniform, I hear people say derogatory things about the force and it saddens my heart. As Police women, people have diverse negative assumptions about us and these assumptions have become stereotypes.”
She further narrated how she lost a relationship when she was in the university after the guy discovered she was a Police officer.
In her words: “While I was in the university, I was in a relationship with a classmate of mine; our relationship was so interesting and lovely that we were the envy of our classmates.
“I’d always cook for him, wash his clothes and clean his house weekly. But as the relationship progressed, I started asking him detailed questions about himself; at some point he complained that I was too inquisitive and he was no longer comfortable with me because of my quest to know him more.”
She said that she then discovered that the then boyfriend had something to hide; she felt betrayed and deeply hurt, but the relationship had to end.
She stressed that she is now very careful choosing who to date; as Police women are trained to avoid being entangled with criminals.
She said: “As a Police woman, I have to be very careful before I enter into any relationship because if the man is involved in any illegitimate deal, it can serve as a threat to my job.”
She also disclosed that in the past, she had met some men who always gave flimsy excuses as to why they could not date and marry a Police woman.
According to her: “Some of the men I met in the past always complained that they could not date a uniform woman because they don’t obey and always appear domineering.”
However, Ms Adekunle is now in a relationship with her colleague, a Police officer. She said she feels its better this way, and disclosed that she chose to be with him because of the way civilians treated her in past relationships.
She stated: “Some civilians just want to take advantage of us; some of them are opportunists.”